Holding your hand as you do hard things
You are exactly where you need to be…
Your grief is not a burden for you to carry on your own.
Are you looking for some relief? 5 minutes, everyday objects, and this mini-ritual can help. Download it today, or send a message to see how we might work together to help you feel seen and supported.
Your Space for Mourning
I have lived my entire adult life caring for people as they move through the hardest days of their lives. For many years, I did that work inside funeral homes; now, I do it here, in the space I’ve created for you.
I have seen people at their lowest and witnessed them find their way to the other side. I have sat at bedsides and at the edges of yoga mats, held hands in silence, and shared wisdom gathered over two decades in death care.
Being with death every day has taught me to embrace each moment as it comes. I know that now is the most important place we can be — because nothing else is promised.
It is my calling to share what I’ve learned, so you can approach the end of a life or a season with less fear and more wonder. As a licensed death care professional, grief support specialist, death doula, and celebrant, my mission is simple: to hold your hand while you do hard things.
My Offerings
At Mourning Space, we honor the many ways grief and transition show up in life. Whether you are facing the death of a loved one, a relationship or any other loss, we offer personalized services to support your unique journey.
Our offerings include:
Grief Support
A Library of Resources
Looking for something more personal? We’re happy to collaborate on custom offerings tailored to your situation.
What is a Death Doula? How can you help?
→ Definition
A Death Doula offers non-medical, compassionate care and support to a person and their family during the dying process - before, during and after a death.
At Mourning Space, we help both the living and the dying during life’s most difficult times.
→ What I Do
I serve those at the precipice of transition and beyond - including those with a terminal illness and their families, as well as those navigating a large life transition such as the loss of a job or relationship.
I do this with ceremony, space holding, individual support as well as guided meditations and affirmations.
→ How I Help
I provide a non-judgemental and safe space for your emotions.
I offer practical, emotional, and integrative support so you don’t feel like you must handle difficult times alone.
You deserve to be seen and supported in your grief.
Upcoming events
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Sound Bath + Guided Meditation
10/15 and 10/29 at 6:00 pm
📍 1714 West St, Suite B, Redding, CA
Mourning Space x Evolved Star Sound collaborate to bring you an unforgetting 45 minute experience.
Relax with the bowls as you access your intuition and find peace in your grief. $17 dollar drop in rate, or check the packages available!
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A Death Cafe - FREE EVENT
10/22 6:00pm
You have heard of them but aren’t quite sure what happens at a Death Cafe…now is your chance to learn!
Here you will find a cozy space, kind people, and a professionally lead conversation by a expert on grief, death and dying.
This event will find us learning more about ourselves and each other while we talk about the things that really matter.
This conversation will feature The Death Deck, an easy way to broach conversations on death and dying.
For immediate assistance after a death,
The Grievers First Aid
Grief doesn’t come with instructions. This kit gives you a place to start—simple, compassionate tools for the hardest days.
When you purchase, you’ll receive:
✨ The Griever’s First Aid Kit (Digital PDF)
Bare Minimum Checklist → the essentials for the first days when you can’t think straight.
Grounding Practices → quick ways to calm your body and mind in moments of overwhelm.
Practical To-Dos → clear guidance on what truly needs your attention now, and what can wait.
The “Parking Lot” List → a simple system to set aside non-urgent tasks without guilt.
Scripts for Asking for Help → ready-to-use phrases so you don’t have to find the words yourself.
Scripts for Saying No → boundaries to protect your energy when people don’t understand.
Rituals & Journal Prompts → small practices to help you hold love and memory in the midst of loss.
Affirmations → gentle reminders to carry with you in the months and years ahead.
Resources & Recommendations → where to find in-person grief support, plus curated book suggestions.
✨ Bonus Companion Pack
Guided Meditation (audio) → a short practice to help you rest when your body feels too heavy to carry.
Phone Wallpapers (affirmations) → six calming reminders designed as lock screens, so support meets you every time you open your phone.
Script Cards (printable + screenshots) → asking-for-help and boundary-setting phrases you can keep on hand or share with friends.
Choices Sorter Sheet → a printable “permission slip” to separate what’s urgent from what can wait.
The Blog
Owning Life with Jokotifa
I’m exctied to share my new podcast about embracing the beginning, the end, and the messy middle of our time on Earth. I’m so grateful you're here! I started this podcast in November of 2024 as an olive branch to my community - Gen X moms doing their best to raise good kids, connect with their ancestors, and break generational trauma...all while working that 9-5! I share what I have learned from indigenous wisdom, working in death care, and by owning my own journey from awkward kid to married mom, just trying to find my place...
Client Testimonials
Podcast Interviews
View From a Hearse with Bruce Goddard
Learn more about me, what I believe, and how my workbook can help you lay a bad habit to rest, in my most recent podcast interview with host Bruce Goddard, on View From a Hearse. Bruce has been an inspiration for me as a funeral professional and public speaker. I am happy to be following in his footsteps and to have the opportunity to speak with him on his podcast.
The Death of Her with Kyle McMahon
Learn more about what a death doula is and what they do, what my two decades in death care has taught me and how I see death as beautiful as life as I speak with Kyle McMahon on his show Death, Grief & Other Sh*t We Don’t Discuss.
The Clip Out - The Peloton Fan Club
Learn more about Mourning Space’s founder, Jokotifa Alaye. On Crystal’s show The Clip Out, we discuss nutrition, health, and my work as a death doula guiding others through grief.
